I have a baby boy and two kindergarten girls. It was a personal decision not to hire a nanny anymore. As much as I want to have a lot of free time for myself, hiring a nanny can cause more problems than not having one. I get to take care of my kids, from feeding to bathing, to teaching and playing with them. It is really an enjoyable experience for me. I used to have a lot of free time, now i have none. Even though it is physically draining at times, it is emotionally fulfilling in the end.
Below are some of the things I have learned from being a mother:
1. Each child is an individual.
Children are different from each other. To avoid comparisons which can turn into bouts of jealousy and hatred among children, always remember that each child is an individual. I believe that aside from inheriting some of the characteristics of parents, children have their own inborn attitudes. Although we may want to control our children most of the times, we should remember that we cannot always impose what we want. Do not expect that because one of your children behaves a lot, the other child will also do the same. Since each child is an individual, observe and understand a child's behavior, and accept him/her as is.
2. Parents should listen to their children.
Children may usually experience difficulty in expressing themselves. Aside from the challenge of developing their speaking skills, children may have difficulty in expressing because of their environment. They may feel that no one is interested to listen to them or they may be afraid of being criticized or being made fun of. Parents need to listen to their children. It will improve their confidence in speaking. It will motivate them to share more of their ideas, stories and comments. It may also increase their feeling of worth as a part of the family. Children will be more open to their parents, thus minimizing hiding of secrets.
3. Laugh and play with them.
A parent who takes his/her time in playing and laughing with the children have happier children. It strengthens the bond between a parent and a child. It may also increase the emotional quotient of the child. When we laugh and play with our children, they will feel the importance that we give them. It will also contribute in how they value themselves as a person. Remember, anything good that we do with them, they will treasure it for a long time.
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